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Saturday, February 3, 2007

If it had just been a Playboy on the table, I probably would have been able to handle that. I don't think that people who read it are "bad," or that it's "bad." That's an entirely different discussion that I'm sure I'll get to at some point on here.

Back in September/ October, I put up three pictures of Australian Cattle Dogs from a calendar in the common area. My roommates said that if I could have my dogs, they could put up their pictures of Maxim women and whatever else they wanted around the common area. I said that I would take down my dogs if they took down their Maxim pictures. Having those pictures of women around made me uneasy, for whatever reason. That's just how I felt, I can't change how I feel about things or my past experiences that cause me to form opinions and beliefs.

From that point on, sexist and racial comments became more commonplace. Anything I said to address it was taken as me having my underwear on too tight and sticking to my principles like a prude. That's how it felt, because things took a long time to change. It's like they just couldn't understand my perspective, no matter how well I could manage to say it, and "majority ruled." Three against one. They win.

They went to Vegas over winter break, and brought back the cards that people hand out on the street corners. They put up some of the raunchiest ones around the apartment, even though I said I didn't want to have to look at those things when I got up to go to my internship in the morning.

So, my point is, this has been building for a long time. I feel like they JUST DON'T GET IT. What do I have to do to get something through their heads? Tear up one of the girly magazines and throw it in the dumpster?

Because that's what I did.

My coffee grinder now has some white powdery stuff in it, and one of their friends (who has a penchant for spite) wrote out three post it notes worth of "How to do cocaine," addressed to me. He's a class act, that one.

See comment #3 on a post on this blog from October 23, 2006.

3 comments:

Excelsior said...

Is the lease month by month? I would leave and find someplace else if it is. Four months is a long time. Maybe someone at your internship can help you out. They might know someone renting a room or they are themselves. This situation does NOT sound like one with which you should continue to live.

swallowtail10 said...

The lease is until May. We're basically not talking to each other now. I don't think I can just pick up and leave.

One of them said I was "nosy" because I would ask him what he was doing, where he was going, etc. The other one would give me one word answers to everything I asked him, so maybe not talking is what they've wanted all along?

Fucking weird . . .

Smiles543 said...

Bleh.

I can't think of very many females who would enjoy having to live in that sort of environment, regardless of one's philsophy about the Maxim/Playboy industry. There's a difference between respecting other people's personal choices, and being forced to be surronded by uncomfortable images - especially ones that may in some context bring connotations of objectifying women, or even just that classic idea of the "perfect" female body versus the "realistic" female body.

I can think of a thousand reasons why things like that could make a girl (and actually, a handful of guys I know) uncomfortable, and I'm really sorry that you have to live with it. Is there some third party you can bring in as a mediator, or one of the roommates that you could approach individually and try to make some progress with?

I will conclude with one of my roommates' favorite quotes:

"Boys are stupid. Throw rocks at them."

:-P